Obedience is surrendering your will. Becoming enveloped in the great divine will. Our own randomly aligned will/desires will only occasionally align with that which will make us happiest. We must be willing to give it all up, and all that will remain of our original us is the us that was good/headed in the right direction.
I know it’s hard to lose yourself, to think of giving up who you are, but if you’re only asked to give up the parts of you that will make you unhappy, why not?